Question:

Why am I convinced my boyfriend doesn't love me?

I've been with my boyfriend 2 years but these past couple of months..

I feel like he doesn't care at the start of the relationship he always made an effort but now..

he doesn't and I just don't feel like he loves me even he tell mes all the time I'm still not convinced as he doesn't really show it.

I have felt like this for a while what does it mean? is it normal to feel like this?

by Ciara_M5863 on June 21st, 2011

Why does everyone have such negative attitudes? There could be a multitude of reasons for why you feel this way: 1) He may have grown more comfortable/relaxed around you to where he feels he doesn't need to be expressing himself as much. 2) He may have a lot of things on his mind. 3) He may have matured to where he feels that showering you with constant attention is childish. You say that he doesn't make the effort that he did at the beginning of the relationship. Are you making the same efforts that you did two years ago? Could it be that because the relationship was new at that time you were on a "high", and now that you've come down you need that high again? Are you a needy person? Don't look at it solely as being his fault. A relationship takes both partners for it to work. If he's a good guy take the time to talk to him to find out what's going on. If you believe that the relationship is just not working, then maybe it is time to move on. If you are just wanting that "high" that you get at the beginning then you may never be happy with whoever you end up with. You'll just stay with a guy until the high wears off and then move on to the next. Relationships are all about communication. Talk to the guy, you may be surprised. I wish you all the best.

by KamiKappa B on June 21st, 2011

yea i talked to him i tried to stay strong he said sorry and that hes been having problems his brother has a disease and his uncles died a month ago i can see where hes coming from but hes shutting me out maybe I'm being selfish but when i was tell him he didn't seem to be listening and i started to cry its really been bothering me he said if you cry I'm turning this phone off and he did.. he does that a lot i know he has a lot on his mind but i can't put up with it I'm worried about him and the relationship i try to be here for him but hes just pushing me out and I'm making all the effort hes making none what so ever... he even broke up with me then said he was sorry and that hes talking stupid he seems to taken it out on me which is hurting me I'm just so confused :S

by Ciara_M5863 on June 21st, 2011
Yeah, sounds like the guy has a lot on his mind, even sounds like there's some depression there as well. I can understand where's he's coming from if this is the case. The best advice I can give you is to just give him his space. He's got a lot stuff on his mind that needs to be sorted out and when he needs to vent it's usually at you because you're the one that's there. I had to take medication because of my depression, and when it kicked in I was able to see how my depression affect me and the people around me. I promptly apologized to my wife for my behavior and explained to her why I was behaving the way I was. Like I said earlier, give him his space. When you talk to him don't complain about things. Let him know that you understand that he's got a lot going on in his head, but you are a person with feelings and it hurts when he takes out his anger and aggression on you. Also, let him know if there is anything that you can do to help and that he can call you at anytime. Just don't try to diagnose what's wrong with him or tell him what he needs to be doing. You need to be strong. I'm sure that he is feeling somewhat weak because of everything that's going on, so if he sees that you're there for him and you've got his back he may realize how lucky he is to have you for a girlfriend and open up to you more. No more crying, be a big girl for him. Let him know that you two are a team and when he's down you will take the wheel. I hope this helps.
by KamiKappa B on June 21st, 2011
helps soo much thanks alot I know what I need to do its easier said than done very good advice yep Im gonna be a big girl for him :)

by Ciara_M5863 on June 22nd, 2011
Aw!! This is the kind of stuff I like to see on here. Support and kindness and common sense!! ^-^
Im so proud of you guys!!

by Mystical Dim on June 22nd, 2011